Balancing Work & Family





With it being ⌗childrensmentalheatlhweek it's only right, I focus this blog entry around how I balance it all. That being said, Im constantly trying to find the right balance. Especially with how rapidly the needs of both my work life and family life change.

For me my first priority is my children and always will be. I get thats easier said than done but over the last couple of years, i've definitely shifted my work priorities to favour of family commitments.






FAMILY LIFE


It’s not easy balancing work and home, but how well you manage this can make a significant difference to your relationship with your family. Having three boys aged eleven, nine and two, I'm sure you can imagine is a full time job. While meeting the needs and wants of each child is something I struggle with, I try to be as open and honest with them, as much as possible. I feel this enables them to have realistic expectations, which prevents unnecessary disappointment. Now let's totally be real, they are children and moods, tantrums etc are bound to happen. They just don't happen very often (thankfully). While making the decision to start ALJ LDN wasn't taken lightly. I had a conversation with my elder two, explaining the changes that would be happening. Letting them know my attention, availability and finances will be effected. While still reassuring them they have been, are and always will be my main priority.




"Work life balance is something most parents really crave. Recent surveys reveal that many parents are eager to make changes so they can work more flexibly, even if it affects their pay, because they know that having time with their children is important."




When Im not working, doing school & nursery runs, homework, driving back and forth to football practice and games, cocking meals, cleaning, shopping, etc I do try a couple times a months to do something with the kids, for the kids. Of course yes, balancing it all is exhausting and expensive but children need your attention, just as much as they need a home, clothes and food. Taking your children out doesn't have to cost a lot either, with apps like hoop. Your able to find events and activities at cost but also for free and with many place's offering picnic areas, your able to save money by taking a packed lunch with you. Also with children being able to travel for nothing in most cases, why not plan some events for the up coming half term. You know your children best, so you'll know what will work.


Something we've started this year but it really should have started from last year. Family movie night, together we pick out a movie. All find a comfy spot in the front room (as my kingsize bed is no longer big enough), popcorn and snacks and some quality family time. You'd be surprised how impressed your children would be with a little imagination from mum and or dad.






WORK LIFE



ALJ LDN being only 5 months old definitely has it pros and cons. Im absolutely thankful for the support, I've received thus far and couldn't be more proud of the response and clientele I've received. Without a doubt lack of hours in the day and resources are for sure my cons. Though its taken a while to get where I am, i'm sure i'm doing exactly what I should being. Being self employed doesn't work for everyone and I totally believe you should do what you feel comfortable doing. Self employment has help me dictate my own work patterns and gives me the option to prioritise my children. I previously worked as an area manager managing multiple stores and staff but after many years of working up the ladder within that company. I knew I would never feel as accomplished as I do working for myself, nor did I have the flexibility I have now. Running my own company is hard and as I said earlier, I had to explain the many changes that would happen to my children. Something that caught me off guard and what I didn't expect. I did not understand the magnitude of the changes to my life. There has been a lot of smiles, laughter, tears and anger and I'm sure that won't be stopping any